Various blogs have been hammering me for agreeing to speak to a group called the Gay Christian Network. I get tired of writing about this issue because it stirs up such a storm of controversy and little of the dialogue seems constructive. On the other hand, the church must keep engaging, and I know of no better way to engage than to hear the stories of Christians who are struggling personally with homosexuality. Some conservatives think the very term “Gay Christian” is an oxymoron. I wish they could attend a gathering such as the one I spoke to last week and hear the stories I heard. Rather than try to defend my decision just to speak to Gay Christians, I will quote here a letter from the head of GCN:
An Open Letter about Philip Yancey
From GCN’s Executive Director, Justin Lee
Since we announced that bestselling Christian author Philip Yancey would be addressing the GCN conference in 2011, questions have been flying, online and offline. “Is Philip Yancey pro-gay?” some have asked. “What are his views on homosexuality?” “Why would he agree to speak to this conference?” “Why would GCN invite him in the first place?”
Some have criticized me for extending the invitation, thinking an evangelical author like Philip is surely far too conservative to speak to a group like ours. Others have strongly condemned him for accepting the invitation, saying he’s condoning sin. Some have even called for other Christians to disassociate with him.
So I’d like to set the record straight on exactly what this conference is about and why we invited him.
When I was a teenager, I discovered to my horror that I was attracted to guys instead of girls. I was a deeply committed Christian growing up Southern Baptist, and I was firmly opposed to homosexuality in any form. Nevertheless, when I turned to my pastor, church, and Christian friends for prayer and support, they all turned their backs on me, condemning me for my temptations even though I hadn’t acted on them.
GCN began when I met other Christians who were in the same boat. All of us were struggling to figure out how to live holy lives with our same-sex attractions, and all of us had felt the church’s rejection. Some of us ultimately decided to commit ourselves to lifelong celibacy, while others of us decided to pursue monogamous relationships. In spite of our theological disagreements with one another, we all wanted to serve Christ, and we all longed for a Christian community that would hear our stories.
The annual GCN conference is a place for Christians to hear those stories and worship and pray together—gay and straight, women and men, some believing in gay marriage and some believing that gay people are called to celibacy. Our organization does not advocate for any viewpoint on gay marriage, gay rights, or any similar issue; our goal is simply to let people know that Jesus loves them and to provide a safe and compassionate space for the church to work through some of these difficult issues.
I invited Philip Yancey because I respect him as a Christian. I’ve always been impressed at how well he balances our need to live moral, holy lives as Christians with our need to have grace toward those who do things we disapprove of. I did not invite him because of any views he might or might not hold on gays; I invited him because this is a group of people who desperately need to hear not only that God loves them, but that other Christians do, too.
I have no idea what Philip’s views are on gay relationships, same-sex marriage, or anything of the sort. He’s never told me. Honestly, it wouldn’t affect my decision either way. That’s not the point.
Last year, we had a keynote delivered by Baptist minister and author Tony Campolo. Dr. Campolo believes that gay relationships are sinful, and he said so during his keynote address. He also received a standing ovation at the end—from an audience including some people in the very relationships he had just condemned. Why? Did they think he was supporting their decisions? Not at all. They applauded him because he was one of the very few Christians who would dare to reach out to them in love and say, “Even though I don’t agree with you, I love you. I hear your stories of pain, and I want to count you as my friends.” That message was powerful. It changed lives.
I don’t know what Philip Yancey will say in a few weeks when he addresses our audience. We’ve asked him only to say whatever God puts on his heart. I do know that his audience will be diverse: gay couples in monogamous relationships; same-sex-attracted Christians wrestling with the loneliness of celibacy; Christian parents struggling with how to respond to their gay children. One woman I know will be attending with a heavy heart, carrying the memories of her gay daughter, who committed suicide years ago after feeling her mother’s rejection.
As those people, with all their theological disagreements, come together to seek God’s heart, I can think of no one better equipped to speak to them than a man who has gained a reputation both as solidly evangelical and filled with grace toward others. And even though I’m sure he knew people would misconstrue it, I am so grateful that he had the courage to reach out to us in love. It is, I believe, exactly what Jesus would do.
Justin Lee
Executive Director
The Gay Christian Network
————————– (Note: if you have comments to make on this blog entry, please keep them brief and polite. I do not intend to make the blog a platform from which to condemn people holding different points of view. Also, please refrain from posting any URLs to personal blogs or other websites. Thank you. — Philip)
Dear Bro. Yancy,
As someone who attended the conference, words will not be able to tell you how much your presence and willingness to speak to us means to me. I understand that we may never agree totaly on this subject matter. I must say however, that the act of selflessness and love of ministering to us, was truly an embodiment of what Jesus said; “by this will all men know that you are my disciples; if you have love one for another.”
Many blessings, in Him
Sven
I can not believe some of you people that claim to be reading the bible on this subject. God loves all sinners, but there is no such thing as a gay christian. I struggle with all kinds of sin and temptation, but you do not walk in it and claim to be a gay christian. You must seek deliverance and repent daily until you get the victory and God almighty is well able to deliver all who do not make excuse for their sin.
Just a brief note to address Mark, I wish you had respected Mr. Yancey’s wish on his blog. I think everybody understands his idea of : “No condemnation here!” Thank you and god bless you.
This is so encouraging to read. Thank you Mr. Yancey for exemplifying the love of Christ!
I am one of those who call themselves gay and Christian and sadly have had to deal with some of the backlash of the church. Many were good and nice but underneath it was the belief that I had fallen from God. But when I would ask upfront if I am going to hell no one would say so to my face which I found hypocritical.
For too long there have been stereotypes and misconceptions about what it means to be gay. I had to personally learn like all of us that relationships are hard work. And I had to see that gay relationships have the same issues going for them like how to love, money, communication, sex and how to be together in spite and in light of differences. For once I even held that belief that being gay was against God and like Mark posted above that there is no such thing as a gay Christian. But in my life I came out at 19 and had a religious conversion at 24 then lived an ex-gay celibate life for over 20 plus years. Underneath it all and through all the prayer, bible memorization, casting out of any demons, Bible College, relationships with women, small groups, accountability I had to admit that after all that I was still attracted to men. And this was something I never asked for it was just something deep inside that I knew that I was “different” at an early age.
A door of change is slowly opening and remember that many in the church are last to come to terms with any kind of change. (Look at women’s rights, marriage between races, civil rights) But Mr. Yancey is willing to dialogue and be open to differences, knowing that we are all on common ground for we are all sinners and in need of mercy, love and grace. To which I and my partner can say thank you for taking this courageous stand.