Various blogs have been hammering me for agreeing to speak to a group called the Gay Christian Network. I get tired of writing about this issue because it stirs up such a storm of controversy and little of the dialogue seems constructive. On the other hand, the church must keep engaging, and I know of no better way to engage than to hear the stories of Christians who are struggling personally with homosexuality. Some conservatives think the very term “Gay Christian” is an oxymoron. I wish they could attend a gathering such as the one I spoke to last week and hear the stories I heard. Rather than try to defend my decision just to speak to Gay Christians, I will quote here a letter from the head of GCN:
An Open Letter about Philip Yancey
From GCN’s Executive Director, Justin Lee
Since we announced that bestselling Christian author Philip Yancey would be addressing the GCN conference in 2011, questions have been flying, online and offline. “Is Philip Yancey pro-gay?” some have asked. “What are his views on homosexuality?” “Why would he agree to speak to this conference?” “Why would GCN invite him in the first place?”
Some have criticized me for extending the invitation, thinking an evangelical author like Philip is surely far too conservative to speak to a group like ours. Others have strongly condemned him for accepting the invitation, saying he’s condoning sin. Some have even called for other Christians to disassociate with him.
So I’d like to set the record straight on exactly what this conference is about and why we invited him.
When I was a teenager, I discovered to my horror that I was attracted to guys instead of girls. I was a deeply committed Christian growing up Southern Baptist, and I was firmly opposed to homosexuality in any form. Nevertheless, when I turned to my pastor, church, and Christian friends for prayer and support, they all turned their backs on me, condemning me for my temptations even though I hadn’t acted on them.
GCN began when I met other Christians who were in the same boat. All of us were struggling to figure out how to live holy lives with our same-sex attractions, and all of us had felt the church’s rejection. Some of us ultimately decided to commit ourselves to lifelong celibacy, while others of us decided to pursue monogamous relationships. In spite of our theological disagreements with one another, we all wanted to serve Christ, and we all longed for a Christian community that would hear our stories.
The annual GCN conference is a place for Christians to hear those stories and worship and pray together—gay and straight, women and men, some believing in gay marriage and some believing that gay people are called to celibacy. Our organization does not advocate for any viewpoint on gay marriage, gay rights, or any similar issue; our goal is simply to let people know that Jesus loves them and to provide a safe and compassionate space for the church to work through some of these difficult issues.
I invited Philip Yancey because I respect him as a Christian. I’ve always been impressed at how well he balances our need to live moral, holy lives as Christians with our need to have grace toward those who do things we disapprove of. I did not invite him because of any views he might or might not hold on gays; I invited him because this is a group of people who desperately need to hear not only that God loves them, but that other Christians do, too.
I have no idea what Philip’s views are on gay relationships, same-sex marriage, or anything of the sort. He’s never told me. Honestly, it wouldn’t affect my decision either way. That’s not the point.
Last year, we had a keynote delivered by Baptist minister and author Tony Campolo. Dr. Campolo believes that gay relationships are sinful, and he said so during his keynote address. He also received a standing ovation at the end—from an audience including some people in the very relationships he had just condemned. Why? Did they think he was supporting their decisions? Not at all. They applauded him because he was one of the very few Christians who would dare to reach out to them in love and say, “Even though I don’t agree with you, I love you. I hear your stories of pain, and I want to count you as my friends.” That message was powerful. It changed lives.
I don’t know what Philip Yancey will say in a few weeks when he addresses our audience. We’ve asked him only to say whatever God puts on his heart. I do know that his audience will be diverse: gay couples in monogamous relationships; same-sex-attracted Christians wrestling with the loneliness of celibacy; Christian parents struggling with how to respond to their gay children. One woman I know will be attending with a heavy heart, carrying the memories of her gay daughter, who committed suicide years ago after feeling her mother’s rejection.
As those people, with all their theological disagreements, come together to seek God’s heart, I can think of no one better equipped to speak to them than a man who has gained a reputation both as solidly evangelical and filled with grace toward others. And even though I’m sure he knew people would misconstrue it, I am so grateful that he had the courage to reach out to us in love. It is, I believe, exactly what Jesus would do.
Justin Lee
Executive Director
The Gay Christian Network
————————– (Note: if you have comments to make on this blog entry, please keep them brief and polite. I do not intend to make the blog a platform from which to condemn people holding different points of view. Also, please refrain from posting any URLs to personal blogs or other websites. Thank you. — Philip)
I’m tuning into this discussion from Ireland.
I’ve read your books over the years Philip and I can’t begin to describe what a blessing they have been to me as I’ve wrestled with my faith. I think what makes your books so effective is their raw honesty.
So having just come accross this I’m very moved that you had the integrity to speak God’s grace and love to a painfully rejected community, even though you must have known it would have a backlash on you.
As we’d say here in Ireland “Fair play to ya!” It took a lot of courage.
homosexuality is a sin,God condemns,yes,Jesus hates it but not the homosexuals or the gays/lesbians,He loved them so much that He wants friendship with them.I was an immoral before,and I had also homosexual relationships before,when I became a christian,I decided to reached out to those immoral slaved men and to those prisoners of homosexuality,I befriended them,shared the bible to them,I helped some of them become christians,but eventhough they are already christians,I realized that homosexuality isnt easy to get rid of,because it’s already a part of their lives,it’s just like a program that should be reprogrammed,not in one day,or in one week,or in one month,but everyday,everyday hours,every minutes.I learned that they need someone to helped them,someone whom they can opened up everytime they’re tempted to fall to same sex.I researched on it,I’ve learned that they needed someone to walked with them,because they cant do it by themselves,that they need someone not to condemned them,but to loved them,to accept them as brothers and sisters in Christ.all of us we’re sinners,even you’re not gay or immoral,but if you’re prideful,lazy,self-righteous,worldly,money-lover,and so on,so who are we to condemn them or to ignore them,afterall,Jesus loved us while we were sinners.maybe the problem isnt the sin,but the way christians respond to a gay/lesbian christian,it’s about the character,a godly character.me,I’ll keep on helping them change,I cant make them a real man,but I can let them feel that they’re my brothers and that I believed they can change.
Thank you so very much for your willingness to be a true disciple of our Lord Jesus Christ. Once again I`m so thankful for your book “What`s so Amazing about Grace“. You are living it out. God bless you and I will continue to pray that the Lord will give you much grace as you take the Good News to those who need Him.
Thank you so much Philip, for showing us that that spreading the Good News is more important than controversy!
I recognize Peter’s story. After years of searching, reading, thinking and praying, I recently decided to take the leap and convert to Christianity. I agree with Fran: the Jesus I learned about, the Jesus that convinced me to become a Christian, talked about love, compassion, forgiveness, loving the Lord and loving our neighbors. I can’t know for sure what God thinks about this ‘issue’, so I look to Jesus for guidance.
I’m in a loving, monogamous, committed relationship. I vowed to love and honor another human being in good days and bad – I hope with all my heart that matters more than whether one of us has a Y chromosome.
I’m glad I was able to find this blog. I found two other sits and desired to engage in a dialog with the people that were posting. I ended up being blocked by one site and the other site was taken down, probable because of my posts. There needs to be dialog.
I heard a quote today that said ‘spirituality is having an open heart.’ Then I thought, religion (religiosity) is having a closed heart to all but one’s own dogma. I no longer refer to myself as religious. I am a spiritual being. I also happen to be gay, which directly affected how I began to relate to others in the faith realm. Because I was rejected by long time friends, kicked out of their homes, and (for all practical purposes) kicked out of the church that I enjoyed attending. This was all very hurtful. So, to be part of an origination like GCN was a blessing. Then to go to the conference and hear evangelical/fundamentalist speakers seeking to build bridges instead of walls, was an amazing thing. Thank You! Philip Yancey.